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Whittaker's Creamy Milk Cookies for One

Sometimes we don't want to make a big batch of cookies we just want enough cookies for one! 🍪 😍 Baking is one of my favourite mindfulness activities. It combines touch, sight, smell, and taste. There is something very satisfying about warm cookies straight out of the oven. This recipe makes five cookies.  INGREDIENTS 1/4 cup butter (softened)1/4 cup brown sugar (lightly packed)1 Tbsp white sugar1 egg yolk 1/2 tsp vanilla essence1/2 cup all-purpose flour (level) 1/4  tsp baki...

Mindful sex is the best kind of sex!

Have you ever had sex while thinking about your grocery list or what you’re cooking for dinner? If you have, you are not alone! Research indicates that the quality of our sex lives improves when we become more mindful.  Sometimes the most powerful thing we can offer our sex life is to just be. Shifting our focus from doing and not feeling pressure to say anything or perform. Our presence alone can be transformational, especially when we bring our whole selves into our sex life and be full...

Honouring your capacity

What we are capable of and what we have capacity for are two very different things! Society has taught us to create our schedule around our available time instead of our capacity. Just like time our capacity is a limited resource. Our capacity relates to how much emotional, mental, and physical energy we have.  While it can be tempting to be a 'yes person' not all opportunities need to be capitalised on. Yes, even the exciting opportunities which could be ‘life changing’. When we p...

How to cope with uncertainty

As humans we cling to what we know to keep us grounded. We use this information to guide our decisions and adapt. Covid-19 hasn't provided us with this luxury. We are faced with increasing case numbers, changing alert levels, and uncertainty about whether we will be spending Christmas with the people we love. Just to name a few.When faced with uncertainty here are five things that can help:1) Having a regular routineA regular routine can help us stay grounded and have consistency. This can ...

Rituals of connection

The world has changed and so have our lives. With Covid-19 we have been faced with uncertainty and our routines have been disrupted. We are spending more time in our own head and 'locked inside' with our loved ones.When the world doesn’t offer us structure a sense of routine can help us to stay grounded.As humans we need a sense of purpose, meaning, and connection. Rituals of connection provide us with meaningful interactions with others and with a means to connect with ourselves. Rituals of c...

Updating our beliefs and assessing our self expectations

Unmet expectations can create relationship conflict. Likewise, our self-expectations can impact the way we see ourselves. As our bodies and lives change, we need to shift our mindset and allow more room for self-acceptance and self-compassion.This was evident to me when I was recently sorting through my wardrobe. I had three bags full of clothes that no longer fit my body, or my current identity. I was struggling to part with these clothes, so I decided to ask Aidan to bear witness to the storie...

What your sex life can tell you about your relationship

As the sexology saying goes “what happens inside the bedroom effects what happens outside of the bedroom and vice versa.” Sex is a powerful indicator of the health of your relationship and can often mirror patterns in your overall life. The more time and effort you invest into your relationship the healthier your sex life will become. The more you communicate about sex and prioritise intimacy the healthier your relationship will be. Rate your fulfillment in each area of your life-Intimate re...

How do you define sex?

How do you define sex? This is a question that I love to ask at the beginning of my workshops. How we define sex has a huge influence on what our sex life looks like. Without taking the time to define what sex is in your relationship, society will create a default definition that you may find yourself ascribing to. Defining sex can broaden our perception of what sex is and creates insight to how it influences our life. This discussion can open us to a greater awareness of pleasure, fun and ...

Sex is like a delicious warm cup of tea!

Good sex is like a delicious cup of tea made just how you like it. I personally like my tea brewed for a long time and extra milky, other people, have other preferences. The key in any relationship is paying adequate time and attention to how their partner likes their tea, while being open that at any point this may change. One day I may decide that I like sugar in my tea, which will need to be communicated. The simple investment of learning how your partner likes their tea or if they like ...

The secret to a wonderful life: Inspired by my journey with my beautiful Gran

I'm here today to share with you our secrets, ones that Gran and I discovered along the way. How can we live a life like Gran, one of meaning and joy? How can we leave this life with no stone unturned, feeling loved and content? Gran's answer is simple, but the application of this simple truth will be shaped by the simple choices you make and the actions you take. I arrived in Kerikeri thinking that I was only going to stay for three months. It was the summer of 2016, I was young, I was ambitio...